Black Nerd Tip: Be Yourself and Be Honest To Yourself
As a black nerd, sometimes it’s a struggle trying to be social. This is because it can oftentimes be hard to find a place where you fit in. A lot of the time as a black person, you can be expected to act or look a certain way. A black male may be expected to be the cool or athletic one in school. That’s especially true if you go to a school that doesn’t have a lot of black people. A black male may be expected to have watched certain movies or to listen to a certain type of music. As crazy as these preconceptions of a black person may sound, we can’t deny that they are often held. By the very definition, black nerds are different. This can be problematic for a black nerd who just wants to fit in.
Being a nerd can be difficult. We can be looked down upon, excluded, seen as different, thought of as immature or treated like weirdos. Frankly, some of us ARE weirdos. Being a black nerd is no better. Being a black nerd can mean more pressure when it comes to the way we behave socially. That is why every now and then, I want to provide tips on being a black nerd. The first tip is:
Be yourself and be honest to yourself.
The greatest thing I’ve ever done is accept how different I am from everyone else. Henry David Thoreau once said that “Imitation is Suicide.” Who knew they were dropping dope bars like that in the 1800s? When you aren’t being yourself that means you’re being someone else which means you’re killing yourself. Anyone can be another person. Only you can be you. Kanye West didn’t become Kanye West by being Jackie chan. Mindy Kaling didn’t become Mindy Kaling by being Stone Cold Steve Austin. Mindy Kaling became Mindy Kaling by being Mindy Kaling. The same way if you try to be someone you’re not, you’re not going to become all that you are meant to be.
This piece was written by Blessing Adeoye. You can find Blessing on the internet either getting into dance battles or analyzing game culture in the name of social justice at @blessingjr on the Twittersphere.